You belong here just as much as anyone else.

I embarked on the journey of creating "be you bravely" because I carried a heavy burden of isolation in my experience as an adopted individual. None of my peers could understand the emotions I grappled with. My transracial adoption added another layer of complexity to discovering my true identity. Despite my parents' sincere efforts to comprehend the challenges I faced due to racial indifference, it was impossible for them to fully grasp the hardships I endured. Countless memories stand out to me, like when we went out to eat and the hostess would mistakenly assume our party consisted of three instead of four. There was also the time I excitedly approached my grandparents at a restaurant, only for a waitress to tell me, "No soliciting." In each of these moments, I felt defenseless as nobody ever stood up for me. The accumulation of such instances instilled a sense of unwelcomeness within my own family, stemming from the ignorance of others. Though I no longer carry that burden, I wish I had someone to confide in during my teenage years, someone who truly understood the thoughts and loneliness that accompanied my experience as a transracial adoptee.

I want to make sure that no adoptee feels the loneliness that I felt. I want to make sure that all adoptees know that there are other people that have been through similar circumstances and allow them the opportunity to find support within the adoption community.

Be You Bravely Beginning

I grew up surrounded by strong, incredible parents. They did their best to understand what I was going through and how it made me feel, but sometimes empathizing with a situation isn’t enough. When you empathize with someone, you show that you care, but I needed someone to tell me that I wasn’t alone in what I was feeling.

You are not going to heal if you keep pretending that you are not hurt.